Blog posts with a category of Personal Health.
Actual texting exchange with my now 20-something daughter, Alison, a few years back:
Me: I’ve been calling you and get no response.
Alison: Dad – you’ve left me 2 VMs. I’ve asked you not to! Text or email me only. I don’t have time to answer my phone. Only call me in an emergency.
Me: But since you’re too busy to answer your phone, does that mean I have to text you to tell you that it’s an emergency and I need to call you?
Weren’t cell phones invented to make calling mobile and convenient? Now, with many young people, using a phone for its original intent has become taboo. Cell phones are instead for taking pictures, watching TV, videos and movies, playing video games, listening to music, checking social media and texting — and it’s contributing to a lack of empathy and an escape from the real world of human interaction.
Common Sense Media, a nonprofit focused on helping children, parents and educators navigate the world of media and technology reports that on any given day teens in the United States spend about nine hours using media for their enjoyment.
That’s more time than they sleep, and more time than they spend with their parents and teachers. And the nine hours does not include time spent using media at school or for their homework.
James Steyer, CEO and founder of Common Sense Media writes, “It should be a wake-up call to every parent, educator, policymaker, business person and tech industry person that the reshaping of our media tech landscape is first and foremost affecting young people’s lives and reshaping childhood and adolescence.”
The 170 psychologists, social workers and psychiatrists at New Oakland will attest that fostering empathy is critical in the development of healthy young people. Kids’ ability to feel for others affects their health and happiness. Empathy activates conscience and moral reasoning, curbs bullying and aggression, enhances kindness and peer inclusiveness, reduces prejudice and racism, promotes heroism and moral courage and boosts relationship satisfaction.
According to Steyer, “Communicating via mobile devices gets in the way of empathy. Texting is so much less empathetic than having a conversation in person and looking somebody in the eye and having physical or at least a verbal presence with them.”
Add in the issues of digital addiction and the attention and distraction implications that come with mobile devices and “empathy is really, really under siege,” says Steyer. “That’s a huge issue in terms of society and human relationships and how young people are evolving in a social, emotional context. More research is needed.”
A CNN Special Report, “#Being 13: Inside the Secret World of Teens,” is a first-of-its-kind study on social media and teens. Fittingly it’s on CNN.go, a mobile app. But that doesn’t make its findings any less upsetting.
Here are a few comments from the CNN report:
- “I would rather not eat for a week than get my phone taken away. It’s really bad,” said Gia, a13-year-old. “I literally feel like I’m going to die.”
- “When I get my phone taken away, I feel kind of naked,” said Kyla, another 13-year-old.
It’s why a typical 13- year-old checks social media 100 times a day.
So as not to feel disconnected, or “naked,” the phones are on when they do their homework, a huge deterrent to concentration and learning.
“Teenagers think that multitasking during homework doesn’t affect their ability to learn and … we know it does,” says Steyer, citing studies such as one at Stanford, which found dramatic differences in cognitive control and the ability to process information between heavy media multi-taskers and light media multi-taskers.”
I know that our laws and values about personal responsibility would never allow it, but if it were up to me, I’d regulate teen smartphone use like we do tobacco, alcohol and soon, marijuana. Bring back the flip phone because until 18, a phone is for talking and emergencies. If you want to take pictures of yourself all day, which teens are also obsessed with doing, then carry a camera.
Unfortunately, it isn’t just kids. Almost every time a light turns from red to green, I honk at the unmoving car in front of me and yell, “Get off your damn phone!” (Or something worse than that.)
Now if you’ll excuse me, I need to text Alison to tell her something important so that maybe she’ll have time to call me later.
My mom, Lillian Zaret, wasn’t perfect, but in certain areas she really knew her stuff. In my 18 years under her roof, she never brought a bottle of Coca-Cola into the house. “It’s junk – all sugar” she’d say. “Tab” was Coca-Cola’s precursor to Diet Coke which came along in the early 80’s. Tab didn’t make it into my fridge either. “Artificial sweeteners are poison,” she’d growl.
Right again, Ma.
Let’s face it. Coke and its many carbonated cousins contain no nutritional value. The sugary ones are stuffed with bad, unneeded calories and help foster obesity. Peer-reviewed scientific studies seem to indicate the “diet” ones seem to do no better in the long run.
But the main reason I hate Coke today is its deceit and influence peddling. At New Oakland, our passion for good mental health starts from the premise that, after all, mental health — for individuals or society as a whole — begins with good health. And we tend to get particularly outraged when anyone — companies, government — tries to distort the truth about what matters when it comes to good health.
And yet, take a look at an article from this week’s New York Times this week that’s titled, “Coke Spends to Sugar Coat Science.”
It documents how, in just the last five years, Coca- has handed out $120 million in grants to organizations supposedly dedicated to children’s health. In exchange for cash, these organizations obscure how truly awful sugary beverages and sugar-laden foods are for children.
If this sounds familiar, it should. The article shows how Coke is copying the tactics of tobacco companies in the 50’s and 60’s — who paid off doctors to endorse highly addictive and deadly cigarettes as good for your health while glamorizing it in advertising as cool and sophisticated.
So, shame on Coca-Cola. But it’s also shame on the organizations that are only too happy to take Coke money, including:
- The American College of Cardiology ($3.1M)
- The American Cancer Society ($2M)
- The American Academy of Family Physicians ($3.5M)
- The Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics ($1.7) and
- The American Academy of Pediatrics ($3M)
These are organizations that claim to share New Oakland’s commitment to health of all kinds — mental, physical, nutritional — and to the importance of unbiased scientific inquiry and education about what contributes to a healthy lifestyle.
When the American Academy of Pediatrics needed funding for a website to promote children’s health, it turned to Coke. In exchange for $3 million over 6 years, the group praised Coke on its website as a “distinguished” company for its commitment to “better the health of children worldwide.”
Now under pressure for allowing Coke to buy its influence, the Academy will end its relationship after 2015 saying, “We no longer share the same values with Coca-Cola.” Dr. Arnold Matlin, a retired NY pediatrician led the fight against the Academy’s illicit relationship with Coke. “Coca-Cola is bad for children,” Matlin wrote. “And the AAP should never accept sponsorship from Coke or any company that makes sugar sweetened beverages. It’s obscene.”
In 2013 when former New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg tried to ban sugared sodas bigger than 16 ounces, the N.A.A.C.P. and the Hispanic Federation both sided with the beverage industry in a lawsuit against him even though minorities have disproportionate rates of obesity. Guess why? Each had accepted about $500,000 from Coke.
New Oakland has only one goal, and that is to positively influence the mental and physical health of the thousands of children it deals with yearly. We’re not saying kids should never drink a Coke, eat a donut or devour a piece of birthday cake. But too much sugar leads to much more than just obesity. It also contributes to:
- Rotting teeth
- Overloading the liver
- Insulin resistance leading to Type II diabetes
- Higher risk of cancer
- Higher levels of cholesterol leading to heart disease
- Greater dopamine release in the brain leading to sugar addiction
Sugar is added to many other food products besides soda. But each 12 oz. Coke has 35 grams of sugar, 30% more than what an entire, safe daily intake should be.
My mom has been gone almost 20 years and I’m grateful for the stance she took against sugar when there wasn’t any research to back her gut instincts. I just wish more modern day moms would take her lead. And I hope any modern day organization whose mission is to advance children’s health will think twice about taking money from a company whose products essentially do the opposite.
“Only the lonely … Know the way I feel tonight … Only the lonely … Know this feeling ain’t right …”
— Roy Orbison
By Martha Adair, New Oakland Therapist, Director
Decades back, the late and great Roy Orbison sang “Only the lonely” about the pain of love lost. Since then, we’ve come to understand loneliness as much more than a temporary condition that vanishes when a new lover comes along. Loneliness in our world today is breaking more than just the hearts of jilted lovers, and as a culture we rarely talk about it!
Loneliness is a symptom of mental health issues, and for people 60 years and above, loneliness has become a disease in itself. It’s reported to be more dangerous than smoking. But don’t mistake loneliness as a plague of the elderly. It is pervasive and damaging in every human demographic.
Loneliness causes people to feel empty, alone and unwanted. Lonely people often crave human contact, but their state of mind makes it more difficult to form connections with others. In many cases, the lonely are in the midst of many people but perceive loneliness.
A college freshman may be a good example. His peers are everywhere, but he feels inadequate, scared and alone. We also know this from the explosion of social media, where genuine, in person human interaction is replaced by the two dimensional sharing of files. No one has a thousand “friends.”
John Cacioppo is a University of Chicago psychologist and a foremost loneliness expert and author of, Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection. “Loneliness is strongly connected to genetics” he writes. “Other contributing factors include situational variables, like moving, divorce and death. It can also result from psychological disorders such as depression as well as from a lack of confidence, making one feel unworthy of the attention or regard of others.”
Loneliness is on the rise in the U.S. In a 1984 questionnaire, respondents most frequently reported having three close confidants. When the question was again asked in 2004, the most common response was zero! Experts believe that three close confidants is plenty to ward off loneliness and the negative health consequences associated with loneliness because the quality of social interactions easily trumps quantity. Continue reading